booktrack 2011-6: reading people

After a bazillion light years, I finally got to finish the book. This wasn't in my original line-up of books but after my Lie To Me (US) marathon and my newly found fascination over body language, et. al, I eagerly put down the business books I was reading back then and start with this one.

Reading People (Jo-Ellan Dimitrius and Mark Mazzarella) has tips and guidelines on how to (duh) read people. Actions and mannerisms that usually gives away what a person is feeling, whether or not one is lying. As the authors have said, just reading this book will not guarantee that you will be able to read people; it would take a awful lot of practice and further readings. Aside from the basics of reading people, I picked up a few techniques the authors use in reading people that could also be applicable to life in general.

If you don't know where you're going, you will probably end up somewhere else.

I know I already came across this saying before. Malamang sa tumblr. Anyway, I think this just means that we must have a goal in life. Something to work for, to achieve. Kung wala nga naman eh ano ang katuturan ng buhay? If we have or set a goal, we can prepare our action plan on how to work our way towards it. Although I admit that just sauntering through life isn't that bad, actually.

Don't shop when you're hungry.

When you're hungry, everything looks tempting. May point siya. I can relate to this big time with my little shop of horrors. I am the employer who is desperate to fill a position quick so I just hire the person my existing employees refer to me. But but but... it's really not that easy to find nail techs. Hay excuses.

Never marry a man until you've seen what he's like sick, stressed and angry. 

A good advice. Although I think I won't be needing this. I have this nagging feeling that I'll never get married. But I could be wrong. I hope I am wrong.

Never forget, coincidences do happen. Sometimes seemingly significant events are entirely meaningless. Don't assume too much.

Guilty. Asyumera here. College pa lang ako alam ko na na hindi mabuti ang mag-assume. Tingnan mo prof ko sa FINAMA, laging ina-assume na naintindihan namin lesson niya. Well, siya'y nagkakamali at usually nalalaman niya yun pagtapos ng quiz. Anyway, they're just saying that things happen randomly. We just give meaning to them. Look for patterns daw; only then can we make something out of it. Tse.

Preparation is an invaluable habit because 'you only get one chance to make a first impression.' And important first encounters often occur when we least expect them. You never know when you might meet someone who could change your life.

I've encountered something similar to this in Templar's The Rules of Life and ever since I've tried to look as presentable as I can, even when I'll just be doing the grocery. Of course sablay pa rin most of the time but hey, I tried. And there were times that you can't fix yourself up before going out because you're already running late as the case with me all the frickin' time. Twice I ran into my ex-crush and both times I looked disheveled. Meh.

Anyway, I still have to memorize a lot if I want to be able to read people. Basically, I just want to know when a person's lying so maybe I'll start with that first. And oh, must throw my biases out the window- mashadow pa naman akong judgmental.